Even if you've talked to your kids about screen-time limits and responsible online behavior it's still really tough to manage what they do when you're not there (and even when you are). Parental controls can support you in your efforts to keep your kids' Internet experiences safe, fun, and productive. But they work best when used openly and honestly in partnership with your kids -- not as a stealth spying method.
Of course, nothing is entirely fail-safe -- and you'll still want to have conversations about making good choices. Here's an overview of the different levels of protection available.
- Smart phones and tablets. If you have an iPhone or iPad, the company's iOS 12 operating system now offers built-in parental controls for mobile devices. Android devices vary a lot in what they offer, but yours may include device-management features which you can find in the settings. Google is planning features for its next operating system that will let you set limits on your Android phone and your kids' phones. You can also download apps, such as Google's Family Link, to track and control online activity, including text messaging and social media. If you're an Amazon user, Kindle Fire tablets come preloaded with Kindle FreeTime parental controls. (Learn how to set parental controls on the iPhone and how to lock down your iPad.)
Good to know: To monitor your kid's social media accounts, you'll need their passwords and user names.
Good for: Younger kids. Once kids get older, they will either resist any attempt to limit their access or simply figure out a way to defeat what you've restricted.
- Your device's operating system. Microsoft's Windows, Apple's Mac OS, and Google Chrome come with built-in parental controls. To get the most benefits, you need to use the most updated version of the operating system, and each user has to log in under his or her profile.
Good to know: You don't have to pay extra for them and they apply globally to everything the computer accesses.
Good for: All ages.
- Web browsers. Browsers, for example Mozilla Firefox, Google Chrome, and Apple Safari, are the software you use to go on the Internet. Each one offers different ways of filtering out websites you don't want your kids to visit. Learn how to set restrictions in your browser.
Good to know: Browsers are free, but if you have more than one on your machine, you need to enable filters on all of them.
Good for: Younger kids. Older kids -- especially very determined ones -- can easily defeat browser restrictions either by figuring out your password or simply downloading a new browser.
- Kids' browsers. Sometimes called "walled gardens," these are protected environments that fill up your entire screen (so kids can't click out of them). They typically offer games, preapproved websites, email, and various activities.
Good to know: Kids' browsers are usually free for the basic version, but cost money for a premium upgrade. They also sometimes display ads or promotional content.
Good for: Younger kids. Walled gardens are too limiting for older kids who need (or are allowed) greater access to the wider Web.
- Third-party apps and software. Full-featured parental-control programs, such as NetNanny and Qustodio let you block websites, impose screen-time limits, and monitor online activity (for example, which sites your kid visits) on your computer or laptop. Many of these programs also offer added security against malware and viruses and will send you a summary of what your kid does online.
Good to know: They usually require a monthly subscription fee.
Good for: Kids of all ages -- and especially kids who need a lot of support in following your rules.
- Home networking. There are both hardware and software solutions to control your home network and your home WiFi. OpenDNS is a download that works with your existing router (the device that brings the Internet into your home) to filter Internet content. Circle Home is a device that pairs with your existing router and offers management features such as the ability to pause the internet, create time limits, and add content filters. (Some new Netgear routers are also bundling Circle's features.)
Good to know: Mucking around in your network and WiFi settings can be challenging.
Good for: All ages.